Be the best role model, they’re always watching

I wanted to share a quote and a poem that show what I believe sum up exactly why we should always be aware of how we behave for the sake of our children. They always pay attention to who we are, how we behave. The best lesson we can give them is a life well lived.

Clarence B. Kelland said, “My father didn’t tell me how to live; he lived and let me watch him do it.”

Mary Rita Schilke Korzan wrote this wonderful poem to her mother: “When You Thought I Wasn’t Looking”

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you hang up my first painting on the refrigerator, and I wanted to paint another one.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you feed a stray cat, and I thought it was good to be kind to animals.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you make my favorite cake for me, and I knew that little things are special things.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I heard you say a prayer, and I believed there is a God I could always talk to.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I felt you kiss me goodnight, and I felt loved.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw tears come from your eyes, and I learned that sometimes things hurt, but it’s alright to cry.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw that you cared, and I wanted to be everything that I could be.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I looked…and wanted to say thanks for all the things I saw when you thought I wasn’t looking.

I wish my daughters would someday read this and feel they could’ve written it themselves. That would be the best compliment I could receive as a mother. Knowing that what you do, even when you think they’re not watching, made a positive difference in their lives.
Much love, Diana-

 

Smooth Parenting

Before we become parents we all ser ourselves avoiding the mistakes we identify in other parents, balancing our professional and family lives, keeping our smiles and joy, being fantastic role models for our ‘future’ children, and knowing how to overcome the challenges that might arise. That’s how parenthood should be, but life isn’t always as it should.

Once we become parents, we realize that there is a reason why people say that parenting is the hardest “job” out there (if done well!). We sometimes find ourselves at our wits end, not knowing what to do next. Others, we just go through the motions and see the days and weeks go by before our eyes.

Parenting shouldn’t be as hard as we think, or we make it to be. Parenting should be smooth, full of heartwarming moments and enjoyable. I’m not saying that it should always be fun, that it should come without challenges, that it should be easy… I’m not saying that. What I’m saying is that we all can be the great parents we want to be, and that we can all have the Smooth Parenting experience we had envisioned.

Sometimes we need to take a step back and appreciate what we have; others we need to analyze what we are doing and improve it; and others we need to get support to solve a little more challenging situations. In any of these situations, we are taking action, and that’s the first step to become the parent you want to be and have a smooth parenting experience.

Much love, Diana-