Spank Out Day

Today is “Spank-Out Day”, dedicated to raising awareness about the damage that spanking causes to children, and encouraging parents to find gentle, positive, loving, respectful and effective alternatives to guide our children through life.

Since as long as I can remember I’ve been against spanking or any other type of corporal punishment. I was occasionally spanked by my mom growing up, and never spanked by my dad. So, I am not one of those people who made the decision not to spank after experiencing it first hand. However, I did experienced the lack of connection, and I know how harmful that is.

Since I became a mom, Dr. Laura Markham’s words always stay with me as I parent my daughters ‘Connection before correction.’ The message sounds so simple, and yet it is so powerful. If that’s your mantra as a parent, even if you thought spanking was an option, you would never spank your kids. If you take the time to connect with them, to really CONNECT with them, with their feelings, with yours… from that place, it’s impossible to make the rational decision to physically harm your children in order for them to learn a lesson.

For those of you who need a little bit more convincing or information about the negative effects of spanking, and who need effective alternatives to it, here are some articles that are absolutely worth reading.

Great readings about alternatives to corporal punishment:

Love,

Diana-

 

  1. I don’t really agree about spanking and I hate it. hurting a child can cause big damage to them physically and emotionally. Children needs love and affection.

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  2. I frankly don’t feel a need to smack my children. Why smack when you can use words? I was smacked as a child and don’t feel it did me any harm but I don’t want to hurt my children, at all. I do feel smacking means you’ve lost your temper and that you don’t want to take the effort to reprimand/teach in other ways that are actually more constructive. I have a three-year-old and 18-month-old and use the naughty spot and counting to five is very, very effective.

    The key is consistency – you need to be consistent, set clear boundaries and say what you mean – every time.

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