“The more people have studied different methods of bringing up children, the more they have come to the conclusion that what good mothers and fathers instinctively feel like doing for their babies is the best after all.”
– Benjamin Spock, MD
Before we become parents, we see ourselves avoiding the mistakes we identified in other parents, balancing our professional and family lives, keeping our smiles and joy, being fantastic role models to our children, and knowing how to overcome all the challenges that might arise.
Once we become parents, we realize that there is a reason why people say that parenting is the hardest “job” out there (if done well!). We sometimes find ourselves at our wits’ end, not knowing what to do next. Others, we just go through the motions and see the days and weeks go by before our eyes.
Parenting should not be as hard as we think or we make it to be. Parenting should be smooth, full of heartwarming moments, and enjoyable. I’m not saying that it should always be fun, that it should come without challenges, and that it should be easy; I’m not saying that! Some days I feel like a total failure and I want to pull my hair out! What I’m saying is that we all can be the great parents we want to be, and that we can all have the Smooth Parenting Experience that we had always envisioned.
Sometimes, we need to…
- Take a step back and appreciate what we have.
- Acknowledge that we don’t have all the answers.
- Be aware and mindful of how our own actions, feelings, expectations, and emotional baggage are influencing our children.
- Let go of the dream that there’s such a thing as a super mom or super dad, who always gets it right from the very first try..
- Analyze what we are doing and improve it.
- Take the back seat and let our children teach us how they need to be parented and what it is that really need from us.
- Get support to solve the more challenging situations.
In any of these situations, we are taking action, and that is the first step to become the parent you want to be and have that smooth parenting experience. You can be the parent you want to be! Yes, you can! We can! … Maybe not all the time, and not every day, but we can be a better version of ourselves every day.
Much love, Diana-