Respectful Parents, Respectful Kids

In line with our April Parenting Resolution, I was thinking about what is the best book about ‘RESPECT.’ This book is a gem in that regard!

It covers everything we’ve been talking about this month about how respectful parents raise respectful children, and more. In this book, the authors invite parents to move beyond common discipline gimmicks, into practical advice on how foster mutual respect and connection.

This book focuses on understanding what makes us tick, why we feel the way we do, why we do the things we do. As I have mentioned many times, everything begins with us, the parents.  This book does a great job helping us understand our own thoughts, feelings, triggers and behaviors, as well as those of our children.

As you go through it, you will realize that the philosophy taught in this book, applies to every relationship, not just the one with your children. I’d invite you to get a copy and enjoy the read.

If you don’t have time to read, listen to it! Audible is my best discovery! Check it out!

Let me know what you think! What are the key lessons you got out of it?

Much love, Diana-

Pregnancy & First Years Books

What to Expect When You’re Expecting by Heidi Murkoff


This is one of those staple books for pregnant women, especially for first time mothers. Pregnancy is complicated, and sometimes scary, especially the first time around. This book explains in plain terms what’s expected at every moment during pregnancy.

The Belly Book: A Nine-Month Journal for You and Your Growing Belly by Amy Krouse Rosenthal


This is a wonderful keepsake of your pregnancy. Although the name of the book is not my cup of tea, and the aesthetics are not very appealing to me, the interior design overcompensates these two flaws.

This book has room to store all your ultrasound pictures and belly bump pictures. I has great prompts for the expecting mothers to write down their feelings, their worries, their funny pregnancy experiences and much more. This is a great keepsake for you or to pass on to your child once he’s grown.

My Baby Book: A Keepsake Journal for Baby’s First Year by Amy Krouse Rosenthal


Just like her Belly Book, this book is a great keepsake. Although the name of the book is not my cup of tea, and the aesthetics are not very appealing to me, the interior design overcompensates these two flaws. It is an easy to fill out book to capture all the milestones of the first year of your baby.

Parenting Books

Audible

Audible has been the biggest discovery for me last year. I used to have a huge pile of books to read that I wasn’t able to get to before a new one added the pile. I love reading, especially parenting books, and I was getting frustrated because I couldn’t find time to read. Enter… Audible!

With Audible I can listen to my books wherever I am with their free app— in the car while I wait the pick up line, on my treadmill while I exercise, in my town while I walk my dog, in bed before I go to sleep, in the bathroom while I take a relaxing bath… just about anywhere! I love Audible and I recommend it every chance again, because it’s been life changing for me. If you love reading and don’t have time to sit with a book, you should definitely check it out.

The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children by Dr. Shefali Tsabary

My friend, Dr. Shefali Tsabary, who became Oprah’s favorite parenting expert, has written the most enlightening and revolutionary parenting book. This book completely resonates my idea that ‘parenting starts with us.

This book uncovers the many ways in which we unconsciously react to our children, and how we can stop our daily struggles as we uncover better ways to let our children thrive in their own way. In my opinion, this book should be in every parent, grandparent, educator and teacher’s library.

The Awakened Family: A Revolution in Parenting by Dr. Shefali Tsabary

Another wonderful book by Dr. Tsabary. This book sits on the premise that in order to be the best parents for our children, we need to first parent ourselves. We need to address and deal with our own issues, struggles, and automatic reactions as the key to coping with the challenges that come with raising little souls.

The Five Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman, D. Ross Campbell

This book is about how to love your children. It sounds simple enough, doesn’t it? Well, as it turns out, it is not as straight forward as we may think. How many adults are still dealing with feeling unloved as children? In most cases, their parents did love them. However, those parents didn’t know how to SHOW each child that they love them in a way the children understood.

Some of us feel loved by getting individual attention, others by words of affirmation… Everyone of us speak our particular love language. In order to make sure our children feel our unconditional love, we need to figure out their love languages. In this book, Dr. Chapman clearly explains the 5 different love languages children have.

Positive Discipline by Jane Nelsen


This is a very practical book that teaches parents how to discipline their children without the use of time outs, punishment, shame or guilt trips. As I mentioned before positive parenting is not permissive parenting.

This book gives parents the tools to raise their children without any punitive measurements, as they help build their decision-making abilities, their communication skills, their respect, their awareness, their confidence, their self-esteem, and their maturity.

Two Thousand Kisses A Day

Those of us who’ve decided to follow a gentle parenting approach with our children know that this path doesn’t come without bumps on the road. Many think that gentle parenting is a permissive, lazy, dessorganized or hippy. Others think it’s a radical form of parenting that pushes breastfeeding, co-sleeping, babywearing, and elimination-communication on everyone, regardless of the circumstances.

We know that gentle parenting is neither one nor the other. As L. R. Knost puts it in her new book ‘Two Thousand Kisses a Day’, gentle pareting is all about meeting our children’s need for secure connection.
But how do we do that? We are surrounded by articles, books and pareting journals advising us not do use punitive discipline, not to spank our children, not to use rewards and bribes, not to label and humiliate our children, not to yell at them… and to be present, to create moments of connection with our children, to meet our children’s needs, to be firm but loving, to set limits… 
 
ImageHowever, all this general information sometimes confusses many gentle, positive parents. Many of the parents I work with privately or that I meet at my parenting seminars tell me that they understand the general principles of gentle parenting and positive discipline (loving guidance), but need clear examples on how to apply that to their day to day lives with their children.
 
Well, Linda’s book might just be the solution for these parents. Linda R.Knost is a children’s book and parenting author and founder and director of Little Hearts/Gentle Parenting Resources, an online resource for gentle parenting education, articles, and research. 
 
Linda gives clear examples, fantastic suggestions and clear information for gentle parents wanting to develope secure, healthy, lifelong connections with their children. In the book she doesn’t only give guidance on how to parent during the formative years of a child, but also during their teenage years and young adulthood. Linda is a mom of six children herself, which gives her a valuable perspective of 25 years raising children.
 
‘Two thousand kisses a day’ become ‘two thousand points of connection a day’ as our children grow up. As Linda describes it ‘Creating two thousand connection points a day isn’t about quality time, and it isn’t even about the quantity of time spent with our children. It is, instead, about being there in the small moments, the moments that matter to our children, and consciously meeting with them right where they are.
I absolutely love the simplicity and clarity of this statement, because I believe that’s what parenting is all about, it’s about relationship and connection, it’s about meeting our children’s needs, it’s about being consciously present, it’s about making sure our children know they’re unconditionally loved, it’s about being in our children’s lives now.
Much love, Diana Blanco